Tuesday, May 28, 2013

The Energy of Time

As I get older, time seems to have sped up.  I remember as a kid the amount of time between one Christmas and the next seemed to take foooorrreeevvvveerrrrr.  Now, I've hardly finished paying of last Christmas when it's time to start shopping again!  I have a theory that it isn't just my perspective of time that's changed (like everyone tells you: as you get older and gain more experience, your perception of time changes).  When my kids were little, even they would be shocked at how quickly one Christmas came on the heels of the last.

So it's not just me.

Four days ago I was sitting at this desk quite convinced that time had stopped altogether.  It was 2:33 pm.  On Friday.  Before a three-day weekend.  The sun was out, the birds were pooping on my car...and the last place I wanted to be was in here: sitting at my desk.  The weekend was full of all the things that make an adult weekend fun: time spent with your favorite person, hanging out with friends, drinks on the patio, travel, relaxation, late nights and late mornings, and did I mention drinks on the patio?  It was almost perfectly the perfect weekend.

And it flew by.

So now, here I am sitting at my desk again.  It's Tuesday, 11:25 a.m., and time has, once again, stopped.  I was talking to a coworker this morning about how energy and time are perceived so differently depending on your location and what you happen to be doing.  Time to me, while at work, goes pretty slowly even if I'm busy.  Time at home, no matter what I'm doing, speed's like crazy, whether I'm doing something I love or doing the dishes.

What's up with that?

As I get older, I notice that I'm rushing my weeks to get to the weekend which, no matter what we do, always seems to be FUN.  But that's two days a week.  One-hundred-and-four days of my year.  That's a lot of time in between those weekends that I'm rushing, and it's probably not the best thing to do considering now that I'm in my mid-40's, I only have half of my life left!

Rushing any of it is sort of a bad idea, don't you think?

I've neglected a lot of things working as much as I do.  One thing that I probably need to get back into is meditation and working on my perception of time and how it relates to the energy I have with which to spend it.  How does on make every minute count?  Enjoy each day as it presents itself?  Sometimes work is drudgery.  A 9-hour day (counting lunch) that drags by as you repetitively do the same actions over and over and over again until you've done them so much, you do them without thinking?  Just like sometimes you're on your way to work in the morning, you leave your house, and then - it seems almost suddenly!- you're at work with almost no memory of how you got there!

Autopilot.  Scary.

I'm open to suggestions.  I don't want to waste the majority of my life, that part spent at work, wishing it away to the weekend.  I just don't know how.  I mean, I guess you can find a job that pays you to do what you love so then you're not ever really working, but that doesn't seem to be the reality of things for the overwhelming majority, me included!  I love my jobs.  I've had SO much worse!  But I love doing nothing more.  No, that doesn't' make me unique.  But it does give me guilt that the other 5 days of the week are all about getting to the two golden ones...

I need to stop this.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Monday, May 20, 2013

The Déjà Vu of Knowing

When I was in college I worked nights waiting tables at this college hangout a few blocks from UTEP in El Paso called "The Surf Club"; someone's idea of irony as all water in this region almost exclusively comes from irrigation.  This was before places like "Hooters" were popular, but along the same lines: young co-eds in short-shorts and tank tops waiting tables to the backdrop of nightly live bands, and partying with the customers was encouraged.  Working there was a typically 'college' experience with a strong focus on partying rather than academics.  

I had a blast.  


Strangely, I first heard about it from a commercial on the radio about a week after I moved to El Paso to enroll in college.  Just the commercial sounded like a party.  And, sight unseen, I knew that's where I needed to work.  I don't mean that in a passing fancy sort of way.  I knew it.  Knew that was where I had to be as soon as possible.  Maybe knowing that 'I had to work there' isn't an accurate portrayal...it was like I'd been waiting to hear the ad on the radio so I knew where to go next.  And when I heard it, I knew.  It was the strangest thing...I hadn't really had that happen to me to this point.  But I knew it as surely as I knew my next step was going to college.  THIS was where I was going to work.  Fortunately it was near the college, so I found an apartment nearby to both and, strangely to my surprise, I was hired.

I worked with this guy named Todd.  From the very first day I met him, he reminded so much of someone,  so strongly.  It drove me nuts that I couldn't ever think of who...like the name was right on the  tip of my tongue, but it just wouldn't make the leap to verbalization.  It bugged me every day...and probably him too as he'd catch me looking at him in that "Hmmmm..." sort of way, and he'd just sort of shake his head and roll his eyes.  It was such a strong feeling!  Like when you're having a conversation with someone about a celebrity and you can picture their face, but their name just eludes you, but you know it!  You KNOW it.  You just can't get it off your tongue.

A man walks into the bar.  (No, the implications aren't lost on me...).  He was tall, had blonde hair, and at first glance, I honestly thought he was Val Kilmer.  (Remember him?!  And I'm talking about the Val Kilmer from his 'Thunderheart' days; not Val Kilmer from his 'McGruber' days.  Well, now).  I think every waitress in the place stopped talking and lost all memory of their conversation the moment they saw him.   He walked into the bar along with about 8 other men, and almost all were tall, good looking, total muscle heads, and in uniform.  This was 1990 near the end of Desert Storm, and there were GI's in from all over waiting to deploy to the Persian Gulf from Fort Bliss, the Army's largest installation, located there in El Paso.


The instant I saw him, I knew we were connected somehow.  I wasn't sure how, but I knew it like I'd known other things in my life.  Not many things.  But things that in every other instance I'd had this feeling, had never once been wrong.  We dated off and on for the next few months, and it was right after he was sent back home after the war was over that I found out I was pregnant.  I never saw him again.  (Yes, he knew).

Fast forward eight years.  I'm living in New Mexico, married now with two children.  My marriage is almost over, the only thing left the money I needed to be able to get out of the marriage for good and on my own with the kids, chalking it up to a bad mistake, one I probably knew at the time I shouldn't have made.  But, like some other mistakes sometimes turn out, I had two little boys who were the very heart and center of my world; and there was never, ever any negativity attached to that.  My very soon-to-be ex-husband had invited a friend down to visit, someone he'd known for years but whom I'd never met.  He walked in the door to my house and I'll never forget it.  I was standing at the sink fixing the boys' dinner, and when the door opened, I turned around.  In walked the person who Surf Club Todd had reminded me of nine years before.  The first thing I remember thinking was "Oh...there you are!"

Nothing happened with this man.  We didn't have any kind of an actual relationship until years later.  But we were instantly friends.  I can't speak for him, but for me it was like I'd known him my whole life.  And for a large quantity of time even before.  Like I'd been waiting for him to show up so we could finish the conversation we left hanging 100 years ago.  Like a part of me that I was certain I'd misplaced dropped suddenly and completely into place when he walked in that door.  And I knew that he was the person I would grow old with.  Someday.

*****

prescience  

the power to foresee the future.


synonyms


acute, canny, cautious, clairvoyant, commonsensical, cool-headed, discerning  judicious, levelheaded, perceptive, politic, prescient, provident, prudent, sagacious, sage, shrewd, well-balanced, wise



Prescience...deja vu...  I don't know what that knowing is honestly.  I know what it isn't, and it certainly can't be considered 'commonsensical', 'levelheaded' or 'wise'!  But, for me, it's never been wrong.  It's presaged giant turns of events in my life...milestone moments, and moments that turn into lifetimes.  It's given me my oldest son Zach who paved the way for a meeting with that ex-husband and eventual father of my younger son, Will.  And when that feeling -- that knowing -- presents itself, I've never once considered the choice of not 'going with it'.  

Some might call that a shortcoming of character: choosing to allow life-altering decisions to be made based on what those same 'Some' might consider nothing more than a stroke of whimsy.  But when it happens, I see it for what it is: a "Hey!  Something important is happening!  Pay attention!"

                                                                                    *****

When I was a child, I remember having a conversation with my mom.  I was about 6 years old.

Me:  "I wish you weren't married to dad."
Mom:  "But if I weren't married to your dad, I wouldn't have you!"
Me:  "Yes you would...I'd just look different."
Mom:  "........that's not possible.  You're here because you're daddy and I created you.  If I didn't have your dad, I wouldn't have you!"
Me:  "No, I'm here because I was supposed to be with you.  I don't have to be with him; but I'm supposed to be with you.  So I'd still be me, I'd just look different."

It would help to understand that until I was in my mid-teens, I really didn't socialize outside the church that my parents' raised us in.  I wasn't exposed to differences of belief, and their region certainly didn't believe in anything even remotely similar.  And where I 'got that nonsense' was as big a mystery to me when mom asked me as it was to her!  But I believed it.  I knew it.  It wasn't until I was in my twenties that I realized a large number of people, some religious some decidedly not, believe the same thing.

Last night I rented the movie 'Cloud Atlas', a movie based on the award-winning novel of the same name by Daniel Mitchell.  I expected thoughtful entertainment.  I was surprised to find it profound.


"Our lives are not our own.  We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future".  The idea that we come into our lives to live them surrounded over and over again by the same people...the coming together, whether briefly or for decades, speaks to me.  Do I have proof that this is a fact?  No.  Do I need proof?  Again, no.  But I've felt it.  Felt it in that knowing.  Seen it play itself out over and over again from the conversation I overheard my children have at the ages of 5 and 3 about their time "before we came to be with mommy", to the very first conversation with my best friend and every subsequent conversation thereafter in which we can go years without speaking and pick up right at the exact spot we left off without missing a beat.  In that recognition of My Person, who I waited so long for and who growing old with now is a privilege and one of my greatest honors.  To the children who have added so much to my life...it's played out over and over and over again.

And it's never been wrong.

I need to remember this.  To consciously accept that the mirror image of that knowing is accepting that, even without knowing, things happen when they happen and at exactly the right time. Even when it doesn't feel like it.  Even when it's not a wonderful gift like the birth of a son who changes your life or your soul mate walking in your front door.  It might even be the single most vexing event of my life to-date.  But it's playing out how I agreed to play it out before I ever came here.  And I'm playing it with people I've known.  Forever.

I don't know what's going to happen with this new and 'vexing' issue that I didn't see coming and didn't ask for and, to this point, have fought tooth and nail and lost literal sleep over.  But it's going to be okay.  Most things eventually are.  Maybe my recognition of these people who seem so foreign to me is only an illusion because I'm so blinded by the event I can't see the players.  But I am bound to them as surely as I breathe.  Their outcome will be a part of the fabric of my own life and will affect its outcome in a profound way, too.  I don't know how I'll handle it, and maybe that's okay.

Wish me luck...I'll let you know how it goes.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Happy Weekend!

Happy Weekend!
This weekend is another busy one!  Tomorrow we have a birthday party for a good friend that is going to be held at this great theater that serves food and drinks!  Can't wait to see the new Star Trek movie 'Into Darkness' with My Person and all of our friends, have some great food, a few rum and cokes, and super good time!

Then I'm hoping to make some time on Sunday for a drive in the mountains in my new Mini "Lucy".  Seems like the drive to and from work just isn't enough. :)  Got to fit in a pedicure some time, along with all the usual weekend drudgery of doing laundry and ironing, grocery shopping, and house cleaning, with a few hours of my night job work thrown in for good measure.  After this weekend, I'm gonna need a weekend!

Happy Friday Everyone!

~M

Monday, May 13, 2013

An Irregular Choice

I first discovered these heels about two years ago and fell in love with them INSTANTLY.  They're fun, quirky, and I guarantee you, no one in your office is going to have the same shoe (if they do, I want to work where you work!!!)



The brand was created by a man named Dan Sullivan in London, England in 1999 and heavily influenced by the punk era of the 70s of his childhood where he grew up on Kings Road.  His parents owned a chain of shoe stores called 'Transit', and encouraged his obvious talent for design, encouraging him to begin his own line of shoes when he left home at the age of 15.  He opened his first shoe shop at the age of 18, and by 23 closed the store so he could travel.  While traveling in the far east, he learned about shoe making from the sole up, and his travels also served him well when it came to his designs.  **"Embellished heels, ornate wood carvings, tiny intricate charms, lavish fabrics, memorable colour combinations...everybody has an Irregular Choice favourite shoe..."
Irregular Choice 'Patty'

He launched a clothing line in 2010 that has taken off as well, with his same quirky trademark designs for which he's known.  Very popular in England, he's still not hugely known here in the states, though you'll see a celebrity walking the red carpet in a pair of his shoes from time to time.

Irregular Choice "Oz"
From the functional to the fantastical, his shoes are nothing but fun.

Irregular Choice "Shoulda Wouda Coulda"
I can't speak to comfort as I don't personally own a pair (they run on average around $175 a pair).  But someday I'm sure I'll find a pair I can't live without and will save my pennies in order to make that purchase.
Irregular Choice "Cherry Shaker"

Keep an eye out!  You'll start to see them more places once you realize what it is you're looking for.  In a way, I'm hoping that they won't become as big here as they are in England.  It's always nice when you get a new pair and don't run into them all over the place once you've made your purchase!

Whoopi Goldberg in Irregular Choice from Macoo - The Shoe Blog

Whoopie's shoes above are just adorable and were the inspiration to replace the laces in these cute low-heeled Oxfords with ribbon.  I've gotten so many compliments on them since doing this!  And the little change made them look like an entirely different shoe for about $0.99!



**IrregularChoice.com

Weekend Road Trip

We took Saturday and ran up to Wyoming to say Happy Mother's Day to My Person's mom.  Gotta say, I thoroughly enjoyed the ride!!!


The weather was a perfect 70+, and we put the back seats down, covered them with a blanket, and loaded up the Rocket Dog.  The top stayed up on the drive up there, but yesterday was spent driving around with it off once we'd spent a few hours getting her all buffed up and shiny.


I enjoyed the trip immensely, time spent getting to know my new car, who I've now dubbed 'Lucy', and how she runs in all different types of traffic.


Here's a pic of our two new additions (mine is top, My Person's is bottom).  We're both in love!

Friday, May 10, 2013

Happy Weekend!

Happy Weekend!
The weekend here in Colorado is shaping up to be fantastic!  Big plans to take the top off the new Mini Cooper and road trip to see My Person's mom for Mother's Day this weekend.

No matter what your plans are for the weekend, I hope it's wonderful, relaxing, and seems to last a week.

~M

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

My Newest Accessory

True story....

The kids left home about five years ago.  Since then I've continued to drive my 'Mom Car': a 2005 Chevy Equinox that's seen better days.  I've always bought the car that made the most sense; the vehicle that was best for the family.  In fact, the main selling point on the Equinox was that the back seat would push back giving growing boys more leg room along with extra space for soccer bags and fishing poles!

Friday night My Person and I were headed out to the movies and I was driving.  Remember, he knows cars.  As in, can diagnose something just by listening to a noise or hearing a good description of someones trouble.  And he's as good with cars as he is with his costuming.

Him:  "That noise is coming from your car, right?"
Me:   "Yah...I think it's the suspension."
Him:  "Yah...I know what that noise is and it's not good...how long as it been making it?"
Me:   "A few months now...I thought you knew about it!"
Him:  "No.  Nope, didn't know about it."

Long pause....

Him:  "We're getting you a new car....like, now."

As most of you know, I work two jobs.  Not because I enjoy working 16 hour days most days, but because like so many other people, I'm trying to dig myself out of a financial hole.  I'm getting closer to China...I can see through the dirt now and can almost see daylight.  But I'm still digging.  Because of this, what I can afford will greatly influence what car I buy.  And no matter how cheap the car, financing is going to be ugly.  Really ugly.

Or so I thought.

He found a Mini Cooper on line yesterday and sent me an email link.  I knew it was 'the one' the instant I laid eyes on it.  A lovely dark slate blue with black stripes down the hood and...dare I dream.... a convertible.

In my price range.

We went to look at it last night.  And, because I'm such a lucky girl and he's SO so good to me, he helped me get the financing to a car that's pretty close to my dream car and definitely more than I ever imagined I'd  ever get to own myself.  He insisted on helping me because he wanted me not only to have something reliable, easy on gas and safe, but also (in his words) "...something fun...something nice.  Because you deserve it!  Not just something reliable that will get you from point A to point B because that's all you can afford, but something FUN."  He knows me pretty well: this car will be FUN.


I don't think I'll be buying matching shoes any time soon, but I may actually have found my ultimate accessory!

***** Thank you Rik! *****  Thank you Rik! *****  Thank you Rik! *****  Thank you Rik! *****  
We're halfway there!  

<3  The weekend is almost here  <3


Happy Wednesday!

~M

Friday, May 03, 2013

March-April 2013


Thursday, May 02, 2013

More Trends I'ts Okay To Fall In Love With

I've never been one for lighter colors.  I lean more toward black or the jewel tones myself and always have, although I can't tell you why.  My closet is full of reds, dark blues, deep purples and burnt orange.  And in summer, I tend more toward summery fabrics rather than lighter colors.

That's all about to change.

This year we're seeing pastels all over the place, either alone or showcased together in floral prints.  From bits and bobs that you can add to a monochrome outfit, to purses in lemon-ice yellow, and jeans in robin's egg blue.  Or even entire monochrome outfits in the palest violet.  Pastel is IN.

This is another one of those trends that I'm loving, though for me it will require new clothes.  Fortunately I know where to buy them where we can all afford to shop and we'll talk about that shortly :)


Pastels have actually been 'In' since last spring.  We just weren't ready to give them up yet, so designers in their wisdom know a good thing when they see it, and have upped the ante by adding flowers.  That means we get to keep the pieces we picked up last summer and just add to them this summer!  How thoughtful of them!

If you're not into the flowery pieces, just start with the simple!  But even adding a flowered scarf in soothing mints and blues can bring your favorite power suit up to speed.


Pastel skinny jeans are all over the place.  I picked up a gorgeous pair of the palest blue Arizona brand, similar in style to those above, at JC Penney last weekend on clearance for $4.

If you want to participate in this trend but don't want to have pieces that may be wayyy out in five months, you can do this slowly, a little piece at a time, and add a few of the following to your wardrobe.


  • It costs about $6 to purchase enough beads and stretchy string to make yourself a cute new necklace!  Check out place like Michael's and Hobby Lobby.  For a dollar or two more, you can make a matching bracelet and earrings!
  • Right now on sale racks at places like Walmart and Target, there are stretchy rings and earrings in all the hottest pale colors.  Most of them can be found on clearance!  You can also check out places in the mall like Claire's and Ice to shop sales for great finds under $5!
  • Only have a couple of dollars?  Hit the corner drug store.  Brands like 'Wet&Wild' and 'NYC' have lipsticks in all the cool shades for under $2!
  • Walmart and Target are good places to look for things that are trendy and inexpensive items that cost a little more than a couple of dollars like a new purse, pair of shoes, or scarf.  Something that you're not sure is going to last style-wise through years, long enough to buy quality.  But if you want a cute new bag for the summer in a bright pastel or print, or a quick pair of kicks, this is your best bet.
  • Don't forget places like Etsy, Ebay, and Amazon!  These can be excellent resources for something chic and cheap!
If you go with a new purse like the one pictured above, you don't have to be in it for the quality if it's just a fun, trendy piece you're adding to your wardrobe for kicks.  For under $20, you can pick up a purse very similar to the one above, or a pair of ballet flats like those pale blue lovelies up there, and you won't be heartbroken when summer ends and you find you've worn out the bottom, or the lining on the purse hasn't stood up as well as the Coach bag you lucked into at the consignment store last month!  But if when August rolls around you find that you've come to love that pale yellow bag and want it as part of your collection, you'll be able to grab a good quality one at outlet or flash-sale shops like Ideeli or even one of the shoe clubs like ShoeDazzle or JustFab, usually buy-one-get-one-free as retailers make room for the new fall lines that are arriving.  Think of it as test driving fashion!

How These Trends Apply To Us Real Girrlz

Again, using what you probably have in your closet, you can add one or two (or more if your budget allows) and bring your regular clothes into the Spring 2013 collection!  Go to the Deal of the Day page on this blog and check out some of the stores I've featured.  Most have a good clearance or sale section in which you can find any and all of the items suggested below.



This really is the year for trends for real girls!  I can't think of a year that I've been more excited about what's IN than I am this year.  It's fun to Chic things up, and I'm tellin' ya, you can do it On The Cheap!

Wednesday, May 01, 2013

It Don't Matter if You're Black or White...or Broke

There are a number of trends this Spring that I really love, and a few I won't be touching with a 6-inch heel!   Not sure if you've noticed, but the 80's are back and they've brought their neon and shoulder pads!  I know that sometimes women our age tend to look at trends as frivolous.  Something for younger women.  Or we don't have the money to follow them or keep up.

But I'm gonna have to disagree with you, sister.  And I'll tell you why here shortly.

The Trends

The Spring Fashion Week in New York had some of the trends that stick out most in my mind.  I'm really loving the white-on-white: solid monochrome at its best (followed closely with black and white, and black-on-black, but we'll get to that shortly!)

pic cred: StyleBistro  -  Designer: DKNY
There's something crisp, clean, and bright about a completely white outfit.  Throw in a pop of color like some fuchsia pumps or a checkered bag, and you've got an outfit that is far removed from your corner baker and ready to walk down any major street in style.  If I try this one myself though, it will be with a backup change of clothes in my bag as I'm the biggest klutz when it comes to keeping white white.  That may be why I wear so much black come to think of it...

As mentioned, right on the heels of monochrome white is the black and white ensemble.  I've always loved that look.  And it struck me most in the Vera Wang Bridal Collection for 2014.

Pic Cred:  Tom & Lorenzo - Designer: Vera Wang
I love the drama of it...and the fact that it gives a nod to the freaky 15-year-old I once was who lamented to her mother that if she ever deigned to marry, it would be all in black and held in a cemetery.  Yah...creepy.  And this was before Goth and cutting!

Pic Cred:  Tom & Lorenzo - Designer: Vera Wang

But isn't this just fantastic?!  Simple lines bold black on creamy white...it's a perfect confection.  And I'm already designing the cake that would go with it!

heels.com

Not getting married anytime soon?  Then do what I do and grab yourself a hot pair of black and white pumps.  These Penny Loves Kenny 'Ronny' peeptoe platforms are available at Heels.com for $69.99.

I find the black/white contrast to come of very mysterious for some reason.  Maybe it's the whole light/dark, good/evil, "black and white" aspect of black and white that's the draw.  This year, this trend was given to me for Admin's Day in the form of the ShoeDazzle 'Ailish' from my manager in the form of a gift certificate.  Should be here tomorrow!  (So glad I ordered last week as they're now completely out of stock.)



If you follow the Today's Outfit page, you'll see that I own a lot of chiffon shirts, things that are very filmy and transparent, that go under a blazer, tucked into a power suit with a coordinating frilly bra underneath and just a hint of it seen to the outside world.  LOVE that.

Pic Cred: Style Bistro  -  Designer:  Nanette Lepore NY Spring 2013
The sheer panels, appropriately placed, can be a design wonder giving just that hint of skin or lacy bra that sets your outfit apart from all the other suits in the office without being bawdy or offensive.  And the bright colored statement shoes...who doesn't love an outfit that takes an amazing pair of shoes and builds up from there?!

I was going through my closet last weekend (when it was 80 degrees, a far cry from our current high of 18 and blizzarding), and found this adorable short sleeved shirt that I got from my  mom as a hand-me-down.  It's very similar to this (below), but the bits of you that show are the bits of you that generally look good no matter size.  I'd wear it anywhere!  Well, maybe not to work.

shefinds.com
Geometric shapes are another fun trend to buy into.  We're seeing this a lot in shoes right now, and the shoe goddess be praised!!  I mean that sincerely.  And this is yet another trend that defies age.  Doesn't matter how old you are, what you're position is in your company, or what your office dress code is made up of. Geometric statement shoes or shoes with cutouts can be part of a fantastic outfit.

I was recently asked by a friend to help her find the perfect pair of shoes for her wedding day, and have therefore spent the last couple of days looking through literally thousands of shoes on line.  And ladies, I've discovered Nirvana.  

heels.com
I love the cutouts in heels right now...they add a sense of design to a shoe, taking it (in my opinion) from common functionality to a work of art.
heels.com

Or the adorable seesaw heel on these polka-dot pretties.  Not sure how easy they'd be to walk in, but they sure are cute!

heels.com
 *****

How These Trends Apply To Us Real Girrlz

There really is a lot to like in this springs fashion trends, many of which you already have in your closet!  I'm guessing if you're anything like me, you've got at least one black pair of pants, a black shirt or sweater, and a bright pair of shoes.  BOOM! you're stylish!



Right now, I have all of this in my closet.  Throw it all together, and I can walk into my office tomorrow in an outfit very similar to ones seen in magazines right now.  And I didn't have to go shopping!



Same goes for the one above!  Absolutely no need to hit the shops.  And you've probably got something similar sitting in your closet right now!

The moral of the story is, this years trends are totally doable no matter how old you are.  Not everything is all about sparkly nail polish or earrings with feathers.  If you keep an eye out, you'll always be able to find a trend that you can participate in with the clothes you have in your closet.  Sometimes it's about how you pair them together, or maybe what you can pick up on the cheap to accessorize with!

So jump in!  Participate!  And it's always fun to see what new outfits you can create with stuff already on hand.